From the loss of my daughter and countless hundreds of families I’ve helped over the years, I mapped out eight guidelines for how to go on after a devastating loss called “The Eight Honorings.” As outlined in my book, How We Go On, each of these honorings speaks to the answerable and unanswerable questions that we ask after losing a loved one.
The one many people are most interested in is “cultivating a spiritual relationship.” By a “spiritual relationship,” I am talking about the love we continue to share with someone who has died or has gone missing. I call it “the love that never dies.” We may not ever know with 100% certainty what happens after we die. Nor may we be sure about what will become of the love we have shared with them. But we can remain open to the possibility that our love will somehow transcend their death. We can continue talking to them, blowing kisses, reaching out to them, and loving them.
READ THE FULL ARTICLE ON PSYCHOLOGY TODAY, THE LOVE THAT NEVER DIES.